Did you know there is an easier way and a harder way to go after the things you want in life? And that if things feel really difficult, all it means is that you accidentally started down Harder Way Road? And did you know, that if you wanted to jump over to Easier Way Lane, you can do that at any point in time? No need to back track.
Before we talk about rerouting, let’s zoom out and take a look at things from a general perspective. Let’s take a look at all the things that need to happen for you to get what you want as a percentage of what is your responsibility versus what isn’t. Of course, I don’t know exactly what needs to be done for you to reach your goals and dreams, but I do know that the number you are "in charge of" as a percentage is technically 0%. You may not believe me, especially if you have an “if it is to be, it’s up to me” mentality, so let’s look at the facts.
Take just an average 24 period, and think about all the things you need to do to get through your day... You have to get out of bed, take a shower, get dressed, make coffee and breakfast, drive to work, do your job in a component manner, drive home, make dinner, get ready for bed, etc. You definitely have to do those things, if that's the day you want to have, and that's just an overview. There are probably hundreds of other things that you may be “in charge of” to create an average day. That certainly sounds like a lot of stuff you need to do.
But let's look at that day more closely. Let's look at all the things that need to happen that you're not in charge of. You didn't make the alarm that woke you up, or build the bed and the mattress you slept on, or the home you live in, or probably any of the hundreds of things you use over the course of the day. You're not responsible for the plumbing and heating the water for your shower. You likely didn’t roast the coffee beans, or grow most of the food you ate throughout the day. You didn’t assemble your car. You're not in charge of the radio programming that may have kept you entertained on your drive, or compose any of the music you listened to.
And this is just how other humans helped you out. Take it further, you don’t have to calculate how many beats per minute your heart needs to pump, or how to digest food and turn it into energy. It's not your responsibility to keep the sun shining and provide energy for all life on earth that keeps you sustained here. You don't keep the world turning on its axis. And, thank goodness, you're not in charge of gravity.
For the hundreds, maybe thousands of things you are in control of during a day – there are an infinite number of things happening, working in your favor, to help you out and get you to where you want to go. Of all the things that need to happen for you to have a good life, you are responsible for 0.00000…(almost infinite number of zeros)1%. You are part of, not separate from, a glorious system that is providing, always.
Now, you could look at the minuscule amount of things that you need to do and mistakenly think those are the most important. You could put this tremendous pressure on yourself to make things happen. Then you’ll stress and fight and struggle and push to make things work. With this approach, when things work out the way you want, you feel great and ride on the temporary high of achievement.
But, when (not if) things don’t work out the way you want, you feel spent and exhausted. You might turn resentful that life isn’t helping you out.
“I don’t feel like I’m asking for much,” you’ll say to Life. “I’m working so hard, why can’t Life throw me a bone here?”
Or you may feel like a failure.
“I’ve done everything I can, I must just not be good enough.”
Do you see how this could be Harder Way Road…? You have the option to keep going down this way. Most people do. I just want to let you know there is another option. You can take the pressure off yourself. You can slow down and appreciate all the things that Life is taking care of for you. You can rejoice in how little you actually need to do. You can recognize that Life has got your back, she’s working out an infinite number of things behind the scenes so that you don’t even have to think about them. She knows that you want to participate in this journey though, so she left a few things up to you, including how you want to relate to the journey. She gave you free will, and thus the option to be blind to her help. How loving of her.
The beautiful news is that I know of no quicker short cut to Easier Way Lane than to merely open your eyes to what’s really going on. You get to witness and play in the mind blowing, miraculous-ness of all of existence. Recognizing this doesn’t make your path smooth and linear. (I said easier, not easy.) But what happens when you allow your mind to zoom out to Life, rather than stay zoomed in on you, is that the path becomes more fluid - the edges soften, the bottom has a cushion. There is grace in the journey. You arrive at your destination, not beat down from having won or lost a battle, but grateful for having time out on the playing field.
That’s the journey on Easier Way Lane.